A forum member seeks advice: My nephew is being eagerly recruited by a Marine recruiter. My nephew is 17 and will be 18 November. He will graduate from high school in June, 2010. He is so excited and happy about being recruited and for the moment has made up his mind to join as soon as he graduates. The recruiter seems like a very kind and personable young man. However, we had always planned and hoped that my nephew would go to college right after high school. At first we were extremely upset. We are now trying to be more understanding about my nephew's views on what he wants to do.
The recruiter is making it so very attractive to my nephew. We need advice on how to remain understanding while also voicing our concerns for my nephew's future and safety. We are planning to visit several colleges this summer--no strings attached--just to open his mind to knowing that he still has the choice of going to college as well as going into the Marines. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
NYDAD answers: His reaction is probably normal, and ought not be of great concern. Perhaps the Marines is the best choice for him. I really don't know. But as you observe, he'll be seeing several colleges, and they too may prove an attractive option for him. His choice won't be final until it is final, and that is at least several months away.
As a side issue, are his parents out of the picture, and if not, what is their position. Also I note you wrote "we had always planned" and "college right after high school". My parents planned the same thing for me, and made it happen ...including choice of college. I did not set a record for high grades there, and was "invited" to take time off. You can give your advice, but always be sure you are letting it be his free choice.
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