A mom asks on the forum: "Our daughter would like for her boyfriend to come with us on vacation, which is fine with us. She is 16, he is 17. We plan on, of course, paying for the accommodations. What else should we or the boyfriend pay for? Should he pay for his own meals? What about attractions and other things during the trip?
Didn't know what the proper etiquette is or even if there is a proper etiquette!"
Denise's thoughts:"When taking a girlfriend or boyfriend of your teen on family vacation, I think it depends on what you are able to do financially and what you are willing to offer to him. Sit down with your daughter and her boyfriend, tell them what you are thinking of paying for, ask what he expects to pay for and work it out from there. Then I would talk to his parents and make an agreement of what he is paying for and what you are providing.
We took our daughter's boyfriend along with us to a basketball tournament that our daughter was in. She was with her team the first couple of nights, but with us the last day. We provided meals and the place to stay, but he paid for all of his tickets to the event. If he had been unable to afford the tickets, we would have purchased them for him.
I think the only proper etiquette is to be open about what you will provide and what you won't provide and allow him and his family to pick up the rest."
Asking our parenting community: Have your taken your teen's friend on family vacation? Can you share who paid for what? Please share your thoughts, advice and stories in the comments area.
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